Wednesday 27 April 2016

A Letter to the Pregnant Me.

To Pregnant Me.

Firstly, let's get one thing straight. You are not fat, you are pregnant - there's a big difference. Your body is carrying and growing a human being. Don't worry about the weight you put on. I'll let you in on a secret - you will actually only gain just under a stone and a half in weight.

Don't worry about how quickly you need to lose the weight - you are a normal person, not a celebrity parading in a bikini five days after giving birth. Cut yourself some slack and stop worrying about it.

Actually listen to advice, especially about getting sleep now before the baby arrives. I know you are in pain and uncomfortable, but you need to sleep - it'll do you the world of good.

You have read stories and spoken to women who didn't instantly bond with their baby. I can see that you're worrying that this will happen to you and that people won't understand. Stop. This is common and if it does happen to you then it will happen. But, if it helps, I can tell you that as soon as they hand Aoife over to you, you will feel as though your heart is about to burst.

Stop wishing that baby will arrive early just because you are impatient and fed up of being pregnant. It's true what they say that baby will come when she's ready. So let her.

All you have heard from friends is how they can't wait to do this and that with the baby. Take this with caution and don't buy into it too much. Friends will be flocking to see you both at first, but it will die down. You will lose friends that you didn't expect to lose. You may be treated differently by some friends; invites for meals, cinema trips and nights out no longer exist. But don't be sad about this. The majority of your friendship bonds with strengthen and grow, even with friends who you don't see for months as they understand that your priorities have changed.

You will also make new friends; a group of women who have supported you and given advice throughout your pregnancy journey and are now your life lines.

This experience will not end how you want it. Your emotions will be everywhere. You will have a hormone crash 3 days after giving birth and have a crying breakdown. You will get angry and upset with people. But it is what it is. 

Stop worrying about what will happen and enjoy being pregnant - I promise you that you will miss your bump soon!

Love from
Non Pregnant Me 


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