Wednesday, 25 May 2016

My Teenage Friendships.

When I look back on when I was a teenager, I really cringe and think of how stupid I was. Pretty much over every aspect of my life; school, friends, relationships and so forth.

There is so much that I could type about loads of different parts of my life so I chose to break it all down into separate posts.

When I look back now at the friendships I had whilst I was a teenager, I can truly say that I can see now that the majority were not true friends.

I had a large group of friends during secondary school and college, however only considered a couple of them my "best" friends - today I only keep in touch with one of these friends.

There were a couple of "friends" who were my best mate when it was just the two of us, however when we were in a group all they did was take the mick out of me.

I found a drawing one day that a couple of them had drawn of me which labelled all of my flaws - 'big nose', 'small ears', 'no boobs'. Up until then I was never conscious of my nose - over ten years later I now hate it and would highly consider rhinoplasty, purely from that drawing (as silly as it sounds).

I know now that I should have dropped them there and then as friends and spent more time with the handful of genuine friends that I did have. But life moved on, people lost contact and a lot of arguments ended some true friendships which still gets to me today.

If I could go back now and change things I would have stood up for myself a bit more and appreciated the real friends that I did have and made more of an effort. I was more concerned with trying to please everyone and was too scared and didn't want to end up with no friends at all or deal with any drama.

To anyone who has toxic friendships in your life, please leave them. They definitely aren't worth it - whilst you may think you will be friends forever it is highly likely that you won't be.

Choose the people you spend your time with wisely.


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  1. This is so similar to my experience at school, I could have written it! Sorry you didn't have a great time either, but I try not to even think about those people anymore as it feels so far removed from my life now!

    Sam Xx

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    1. It's so true - I no longer see the majority of them. Most are still stuck in their little bubbles ha xx

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  2. That quotes perfect. Life's too short!!

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    1. It really is isn't it! We shouldn't waste time on people who aren't worth it x

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  3. I love that quote and it's so true. In the end, a friend that's awful will actually hurt you more.
    Emm @day48blog
    #thepod

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    1. Definitely agree with that. I'd rather have a couple of amazing friends than loads of fake ones! x

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  4. Had a similar experience as you, was sat down and had everything that was wrong with me pointed out, made me very unsure of my appearance, girls can be quite cruel

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    1. Girls really can be cruel! I much prefer having male friends because of it x

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  5. Teenage friendships are tough. Thankfully, I had a close group of friends who I am not friends with now #thepod

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    1. They really are. You think you'll all be friends forever and very rarely that happens x

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  6. I have a teenager and this post is more less the experience she has at school. It makes me mad that kids (yes I think that's what they still are) can be so cruel. My advice to her has always been, this too shall pass and your adult circle of friends will be ones you have the power to choose and cull as and when needed. Hugs to you xxx

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    1. Ahhh I forgot to add fellow teenage angst warrior 😂 #thepod

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    2. Ah bless her! She's lucky to have you as her mum though! It'll definitely pass and she will rise above it xx

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